Suzie was my best friend growing up. I played with her all the time, play date after play date!
Suzie is the name that my parents gave to my vagina.
My father caught me playing with Suzie at the ripe age of 6. People always seem shocked that I was masturbating by 6. The truth is that I was masturbating at 4. I just didn’t get caught the first couple of years.
After my parents caught me humping my canopy bedpost,
it became an internal battle between physical self-loving and mental self-loathing.
As much as Suzie felt good, I was feeling dirty because my parents didn’t support it. But I was too young to think about it, I was an adolescent and just knew that it felt good. So I continued to hump desks, monkey bars, hairbrushes, remote controls, you name it. But that voice in my head saying, “you’re dirty!”… always made enjoying an orgasm challenging.
But Suzie could not be stopped!
My parents didn't know any better when they ridiculed me for my acts of self pleasure. They did the best they could. It was the 80's. There was no YouTube, blogs, or podcasts for parents to realize the advantage of self-loving.
In my 20’s, I eventually bought myself a vibrator, but the voice in my head always called out, “Shame on you” during the buzzing.
In my 30’s, I started to explore self-love. We’re told to look in the mirror and say to ourselves “I Love you. You are perfect.”
So I took it further. I started really loving my body in the act. Saying things that my intimate partners would typically say in the throws of passion. It was empowering. I started owning my body. And loving Suzie emotionally, not just physically.
I was making love to myself.
There’s no shame in taking care of our needs. It’s time to Finger our Way To Freedom.
Now when I have my play dates with Suzie, I pull that nightstand drawer open and say,
“Suzie, I’m so grateful for how good you make me feel. I don’t need anyone else to touch me to really feel loved.”
And my play date with Suzie begins. Bzzzz Bzzzz Bz Bz Bz Bzzzzzzzzz
If I can help just one child not feel guilty about their own self-discovery,
then Suzie did her job.
Suzie is the name that my parents gave to my vagina.
My father caught me playing with Suzie at the ripe age of 6. People always seem shocked that I was masturbating by 6. The truth is that I was masturbating at 4. I just didn’t get caught the first couple of years.
After my parents caught me humping my canopy bedpost,
it became an internal battle between physical self-loving and mental self-loathing.
As much as Suzie felt good, I was feeling dirty because my parents didn’t support it. But I was too young to think about it, I was an adolescent and just knew that it felt good. So I continued to hump desks, monkey bars, hairbrushes, remote controls, you name it. But that voice in my head saying, “you’re dirty!”… always made enjoying an orgasm challenging.
But Suzie could not be stopped!
My parents didn't know any better when they ridiculed me for my acts of self pleasure. They did the best they could. It was the 80's. There was no YouTube, blogs, or podcasts for parents to realize the advantage of self-loving.
In my 20’s, I eventually bought myself a vibrator, but the voice in my head always called out, “Shame on you” during the buzzing.
In my 30’s, I started to explore self-love. We’re told to look in the mirror and say to ourselves “I Love you. You are perfect.”
So I took it further. I started really loving my body in the act. Saying things that my intimate partners would typically say in the throws of passion. It was empowering. I started owning my body. And loving Suzie emotionally, not just physically.
I was making love to myself.
There’s no shame in taking care of our needs. It’s time to Finger our Way To Freedom.
Now when I have my play dates with Suzie, I pull that nightstand drawer open and say,
“Suzie, I’m so grateful for how good you make me feel. I don’t need anyone else to touch me to really feel loved.”
And my play date with Suzie begins. Bzzzz Bzzzz Bz Bz Bz Bzzzzzzzzz
If I can help just one child not feel guilty about their own self-discovery,
then Suzie did her job.